Our Digital Archive from 2000 – 2016
Dear Dr. Norquist: My daughter is now 14 months old. Throughout my pregnancy I suffered stress related to my husband and his parents and siblings. During my 6 months of pregnancy my husband’s sister and mother got violent and made a scene at a birthday party. The day I gave birth at Hackensack Hospital my …
Dear Dr. Norquist: I’m hoping you can help me. I’ve never had this problem before and I don’t know what to do about it. I’m dating a woman who I really care about, yet I find myself angry at her a lot of the time. She doesn’t do anything to deserve the anger. I pride …
Dear Dr. Norquist: I don’t know if you’ve written about this topic before but I bet a lot of people can relate to it. I’m talking about money and my lack of it. I got a new job last year that pays $6,000 more than my last job. At the time I was elated because …
Dear Dr. Norquist: Lately I have been feeling miserably down on myself. I didn’t get a job offer that I thought would come through and I can’t seem to stop feeling like a failure. When I feel this way, I have trouble doing anything. It keeps me from trying again. I don’t like this about …
Dear Dr. Norquist: I’m very dependent on my husband and he likes it that way. He is my world. Mostly this works for us. We have a comfortable home together. The problem is I’m afraid the relationship only works if things stay as they are. He likes it that I don’t work outside the home. …
Dear Dr. Norquist: My problem is that I don’t know who I am. I mean I know I’m a 24 year-old NJ woman and I know that I work in a retail business, but I don’t really know who I am. I think because of this I have trouble making decisions for myself and am …
Dear Dr. Norquist: I am hoping you can help me. I have been married 18 years. I was so very happy and loved him so very much. About two years ago, I got up to go to work, but before I left I went on my computer to check my mail and found my husband …
Dear Dr. Norquist: I’ve been re-thinking my career, and not knowing what to do. I’m good at what I do and I keep getting offers that entice me to stay. I know that if I leave this field and start anew, I may not immediately earn enough to support myself. With this in mind, I’ve …
(Dr. Norquist is on vacation this holiday weekend. We are re-running a letter that was published earlier in this column.) Dear Dr. Norquist: How can I stop myself from this crazy worrying and obsessing and thinking too much about past and future and being a perfectionist etc.? I need help! And some advice! Thank you. …
Dear Dr. Norquist: My whole life I’ve been doing what I think I’m supposed to do. I went to college, taught in a high school, married and had two children. I do my best to raise my kids, maintain my marriage and be a good teacher. I can’t help wondering, though, if there isn’t something …